Stop Talking

Lofty goals are important. They force us to push to achieve what we want.

We often share our goals with others believing it increases accountability and the likelihood of success. Some of us think that telling others creates added pressure and instead keep our goals to ourselves.

Either approach is fine but you don’t need to tell us your excuses when the work needs to be put in or things don’t go to plan. Your ambitions mean very little to us and we don’t want to hear about how your lack of coenzyme Q-10 is stopping you from reaching your goal.

Stop spreading negativity. It’s like a virus and has the power to persuade others to follow your lead. If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say it at all.

Do the work.


The Secret

When we see a successful person, we want to know how they reached the top. Is it their diet? Maybe if I only ate bananas I could become a world-class cricketer too. Is it their training style? Or maybe it’s the unique way they tie their shoes?

Whatever it is, we want to know. And we hope it’s something quick and easy to implement.

‘What’s your secret?’

The success replies politely, answering in vague terms knowing the truth will only disappoint.

There is no secret. When a champion tells you their life is built on hard work, that’s the truth. Patience, intelligence, a willingness to learn, persistence, and the ability to grind. These are the qualities needed to succeed.

Success doesn’t come easy. Throw away the notion that there is a secret and spend more time putting in the work.

When confronted with difficulty, see it as a sign that you’re on the right path. And keep going.

The Pressure Of An End Date

We’re told to live each day like it’s our last, but it’s not that simple.

The pressure of an end date forces us to act and think differently. I witnessed this recently when a student at the Kung Fu academy was ending his stay.

His attitude changed significantly during his final few days. He was bolder and demanding of what he asked from others –  asking things that he wouldn’t have normally. He aired his criticisms with greater freedom too.

He appeared to care less of the consequences of his words and actions knowing he had nothing to lose. And his willingness to learn increased – he pushed fellows students to teach him.

His cavalier attitude was unattractive at times but there was no doubting its effectiveness.

How do we take the good parts of his approach and apply it to our lives? Or is carpe diem unsustainable?

Goal setting is part of the answer, as it gives us deadlines. Remember the initiative we showed when a high school assignment was due? The due date forces action. But the difference is we need to hold ourselves accountable, as Mr Hawke from History class won’t be there brandishing his whip.

Regular reminders help too. A simple memo can keep the goal – living each day like it was our last – in mind.

Is it sustainable to live this way? Leave your opinion below.

Everything In Moderation, Including Moderation

Everything in moderation – good advice from every mother’s handbook.

This maxim holds true for nearly every situation…

  • Nutrition – eat a balanced diet. Allow yourself treats but in lesser quantities.
  • Exercise – train regularly and with variety. Allow for rest.

There is an innate sense that tells us what is sensible. But occasionally, it’s valuable to ignore the inner voice.

A life of moderation is a boring one as it sets constraints on what we should and shouldn’t do. We’re not robots that require rigidity to survive, we’re capable of dealing with chaos too. And while the thought of breaking routine frightens us – this is more reason to unshackle from the restraints we set.

Stray from your meal plan or try something different in the gym. You might learn something. You’ll become more adaptable by opening yourself up to disorder.

The Value of Teaching

The student will appear when the teacher is ready.

Is anyone expert enough to teach? Is a level of mastery needed before passing on knowledge.

This mindset slows progression. There is no magical threshold to begin passing on what we know.

Fear we’re not yet good enough

Fear of inadequate skills stops many from teaching. But, skill levels are relative – if you know more than someone else, that is enough to teach. If you don’t trust your teaching abilities, the only way to improve is by teaching.

Fear of wasting time

Teaching takes time but is not a time waster. It provides an opportunity to:

  • Review the fundamentals of a skill.
  • Consolidate a skill through observation and practice.
  • Develop better cues.
  • Pass the skill on and contribute to the growth of the community, whether it be wrestling or weightlifting.

Be open to teaching. And while there’s no perfect coach, with good intent, both student and teacher will benefit.

What have you learned from teaching? Leave a lesson below.